welcome to the language of UNTANGLING
If this work feels like a whole new world, that’s because it is.
Most of us were never given language for patriarchy, wounds, or what it actually means to live from truth rather than expectation. This page is here to translate. No jargon, no gatekeeping. Just simple explanations for the terms, concepts, and questions that come up when we start untangling it all.
FAQ
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Have a read below, hopefully I have answered your questions, if not please feel free to message or WhatsApp me.
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Patriarchy isn’t just about men in power. It’s a society that is obsessed with masculine energies - regardless of their health.
It prioritises doing over being, productivity over presence, logic over intuition.
It belittles and neglects feminine energies in order to keep the masculine strong and favoured.
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No. Patriarchy harms women and men.
This work is about awareness and responsibility — not blame or victimhood.
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Within a patriarchy masculine energy is favoured, promoted and championed whereas feminine energy is generally belittled, neglected and blocked. When we carry out Energetic Empowerment Coaching work we focus on the health and harmony of the masculine and feminine energies within a person, a situation, a relationship or a society (or Universe!) with the aim of identifying opportunities to heal, unblock and harmonise these.
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You don’t have to feel oppressed to be impacted.
The subtle conditioning of the patriarchy can also lead to the following side effects:
Chronic busyness
Guilt when resting
Difficulty receiving
Disconnection from intuition
Over-functioning in relationships
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Internal patriarchy =
Your inner critic
Your need to prove
Your discomfort with slowing down or being seen
Essentially it is where you are maintaining the patriarchy (probably unknowingly) but living very much in your masculine energy (healthy or toxic) and your feminine energy can be blocked or unhealthy).
Energetic patriarchy =
A world built favouring masculine energy (constant output, linear growth)
With little space for cyclical, intuitive, relational ways of being (feminine energies).
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It’s practical, embodied, and grounded.
You don’t need to believe anything — just notice what resonates.
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You may benefit from:
More self-trust
Clearer boundaries
Less burnout
Better relationships
A life that feels less forced
Improved self confidence
Access to living authentically.
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No, in fact the women that I work with are incredibly capable, intelligent, and high-functioning — they’re just disconnected from themselves. They are searching for more, they know that they have access to more but they haven’t known how. This work guides them to towards their truth.
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When feminine energies like creativity or emotional connection are blocked by societal messaging or a person’s belief system. This can stem from conditioning that connects with these traits as being weak or low value to the patriarchy.
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Widely circulated cultural myths, stereotypes and social expectations that reinforce a system where masculine energy is championed and feminine energies are belittled. These narratives shape social norms, behaviour and have a detrimental impact on the ability to live in energetic harmony.
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When feminine and masculine energy are both present and working together — within a person, a relationship or a situation — creating a sense of balance, ease and inner steadiness.
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When feminine and masculine energy are out of balance — often with one overused and the other suppressed — leading to tension, exhaustion and a sense of disconnection within a person, relationship or situation.
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A person’s natural energetic makeup — the unique balance of feminine and masculine energy that feels most true, easeful and authentic for you. It’s how you’re meant to move through life when you’re not shaped by expectation, conditioning or survival patterns.
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Learning how to use your energy intentionally — strengthening self-trust, restoring balance between feminine and masculine energy, and making choices that support your wellbeing rather than drain it. It’s not about fixing yourself; it’s about taking responsibility for your energy and how you live.
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A person who benefits from expressing more feminine energy than masculine energy to feel aligned and authentic, while still needing access to masculine energy for structure, safety, and grounded action. They often (though not always) identify as a woman.
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These include being, flowing, collaboration, emotions, senses, connection with nature and the Universe, compassion, creativity, intuition.
Glossary
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These include doing, pushing, competing, logic, structure, solitary, linear, boundaries, external focus, control, performance, quantitative measuring, stoicism.
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A person who benefits from expressing more masculine energy than feminine energy to feel aligned and authentic, while still needing access to feminine energy for balance, intuition, and emotional depth. They often (though not always) identify as a man.
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A movement of women courageously seeking their truth by healing and unblocking their patriarchy wounds.
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ME. Not someone’s daughter’ someone’s partner, someone’s anything - YOU, exactly as you arrived on this planet.
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Someone who chooses their truth over conditioning.
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The safe space, love and power that is generated when women join forces to support and be held.
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Your original Self — the version of you that existed before conditioning, expectation, and survival patterns took over.
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A distorted, fear-based expression of masculine traits like control and performance that can manifest as emotional unavailability, toxic-independence, hyper-competitiveness, constant overworking, aggression, or a deep fear of vulnerability.
THE WOUNDS
THE WOUNDS
A crash course in our collective trauma.
patriarchy Wounds
The umbrella term for all the wounds, energetic blocks and bullshit stories that the patriarchy has layered us with that distance us from our truth.
Money Wound
The wounding that leaves us with an unhealthy relationship with money, financial security and worth.
mother wound
The wounding that relates to the maternal line and relates to inherited ancestral wounding and patterns of behaviour.
sister Wound
The wounding that negatively impacts women around connecting with other women thereby keeping us disconnected (exactly as the patriarchy wants us: separate from our collective power.)
witch wound
The wounding that keeps us silent, small, reluctant to share our wisdom. It stems back to collective trauma and fear generated during the historical witch hunts (15th-18th centuries) in Europe.
